Answers for your Breastfeeding Questions

As you breastfeed, how can you get reliable answers for your many, many breastfeeding questions?

Women have a hard time learning to breastfeed in our modern society.

When you breastfeed, your baby depends on you for food, comfort, guidance, and most everything else. And when everyone around you is bottle feeding, you need good answers for all your questions about breastfeeding. When you don’t have answers, you feel anxious and unsure much of the time.

You realize you have a lot of questions about breastfeeding.

You question what your breasts are doing, how much milk you are making, and definitely, whether your baby is eating enough or too much. Why is your baby so gassy and uncomfortable? Why is your baby eating so frequently? Why does your baby cry after eating for 45 minutes? Why won’t your baby sleep in their crib?

You are on the hunt for answers about your breastfeeding challenges.

You ask your doctor questions, but they don’t seem to have answers about breastfeeding. And you resolve some of your questions through trial and error, but often that is painful. So, you Google your questions, study YouTube, and ask your friends as each challenge that pops up. But WHICH is the right answer for your breastfeeding dilemma?

You are overwhelmed.

Something may have been working for you, (and on Instagram, many people are doing that same thing) but this time it just isn’t working. So you are back to looking for new answers for your breastfeeding questions, more solitary scrolling, skimming the scary parts, feeling more and more frustrated. And, ready to cry.

Because you don’t have the answers you need, you doubt yourself, your boobs, and your ability to breastfeed. 

And you are not alone. 80% of all mothers want to breastfeed and leave the hospital breastfeeding, searching for answers to their breastfeeding questions.

  • Nearly every one of them worries about not having enough milk
  • Most are shocked at how difficult breastfeeding is to learn
  • Many mothers spend weeks/months in pain
  • More than half are supplementing with formula by three months
  • Only 18% are exclusively breastfeeding at six months
  • Only 37% are still nursing (in any amount) at one year

Breastfeeding should be as easy as sipping a comforting cup in a café. The problem is, America is a country where breastfeeding is ignored, undermined and made impossible by design. It’s not an accident.

In America, everything we do is shaped by corporate interests. Corporations serve their shareholders, and their purpose is to make their shareholders wealthy. There is no penalty for wrecking people’s health, our environment, or our community structures.

Companies that make formula make a LOT of money. The baby milk industry is estimated at an $55,000,000,000 per year. $55 billion a year to take cow’s milk, freeze-dry it, add some vitamins, and a false claim and ship it around the world. And the profit increases every year because well-thought out advertising and marketing increases every year.

Formula companies are happy to provide answers for breastfeeding questions, albeit in predator mode.

They know that if they support a woman where she is at, send her swag, and answer her breastfeeding questions, she will become indebted to them. Then, one day when she has problems breastfeeding, they can rush to her side and comfort her, saying, “We are sorry for your loss, but you know, not all women can breastfeed.”

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry if this has happened to you.

I’m sorry if hearing this makes you angry.

I’m sorry if you are one of the parents who really and truly could not breastfeed, and reading this makes you really angry.

I’m sorry if hearing this makes you super angry, because your baby would have died without formula. There is nothing wrong with using formula when you need it.

Failing at breastfeeding is not your fault. 

American mothers have far too many social, corporate and medical barriers to assume breastfeeding will happen easily and effortlessly. Mothers who breastfeed beyond a year have determination, good support, and good luck.

We are meant to live in close-knit communities with our mothers, sisters, aunties, and elders. We are meant to learn by watching, asking questions, intuiting, and also, by being specifically taught by our sisters and elders: “This, is how you make a chicken soup. This, is how you soothe a baby. This is how you clean your clothes… “This, is how you breastfeed.”

We don’t live in a traditional community, but we do have GPS.

When you want to go someplace new, you put your destination into a GPS and it gives you guidance. Out of all the information in the world, it shows you only three things: 

1. Where you are

2. Where you are going and

3. What to do next

The Breastfeeding Café is like a GPS.

Put in where you want to go. Post any question about breastfeeding and receive an answer with “turn-by-turn guidance” for your exact situation. With this guidance, you can reduce your feelings of overwhelm, feel more confident, and enjoy breastfeeding your baby. 

When you have GPS, it’s easy to get to where you want to go.

  1. Painless breastfeeding
  2. A well-fed baby
  3. Exclusive breastfeeding
  4. Effective pumping
  5. Sleeping better
  6. Returning to work with ease
  7. Baby-led weaning
  8. Making some new friends
  9. Helping baby meet friends
  10. Feeling happy and healthy

And these are just the beginning.

The Breastfeeding Café is an online café where you can get answers to your breastfeeding questions.

It’s a community of (mostly) breastfeeding mothers gathered in a forum. You can settle in with your device and a coffee, tea, or wine to learn about breastfeeding, and make friends.

We are a community of real people who answer your breastfeeding questions.

  • Real mothers who live near each other
  • Getting answers for our breastfeeding questions
  • Questioning and discussing all things mothering
  • Guided by an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC)
  • With a Library of Resources
  • Meeting in real life for sanity and deepening knowledge
  • Using Vanishing Reports that help us understand more about any topic.

Our attitude is full of encouragement, acceptance, empathy and kindness. Moms drop by The Breastfeeding Café to chat, ask questions, and share stories. We anticipate, commiserate, and definitely celebrate!

Breastfeeding Café conversations answer your breastfeeding questions.

And you will get good answers, that make sense, for your breastfeeding questions. You will learn how to comfortably hold your baby. You will learn how your milk production works and how other people work through shortage or overabundance. You will learn how to reduce pain and even prevent it. You will meet moms who reduced formula use and now exclusively breastfeed. You will meet women who are working and breastfeeding. You will meet parents who have older babies and children who are nursing.

Wait… back up a minute. Why a café? Why not a clinic?

Breastfeeding is a normal way of raising babies. It’s not a medical problem. Breastfeeding is not inherently difficult or painful. It a skill that takes time, like any skill. It’s hard in the beginning because you’ve never done it before and there’s so much to learn. By 3 or 4 months, it’s efficient and satisfying for nearly everyone.

Ideally, we learn breastfeeding the way we learn most life skills.

We observe others breastfeeding, ask questions about breastfeeding, sometimes hire a lactation consultant, observe, ask more questions, and practice breastfeeding, a lot. It’s how you learned to walk, talk, read, ride a bike and any of the hundreds of skills you are now practicing fluently every day.

The Breastfeeding Café is owned, run and moderated by me, Donna Bruschi, IBCLC.

I love my work of helping families with breastfeeding and mothering. I’m around a lot because The Breastfeeding Café is a good place for me to do my writing. I am in The Breastfeeding Café giving guidance and reliable answers to those who ask about breastfeeding. I read everything posted and correct (or remove) false or misleading information about breastfeeding.

You can ask me all your breastfeeding questions.

Before giving you an answer, I will often ask you more questions to find out what is happening, what you have tried, what you would like instead, so we can be sure a solution will work for you. More importantly, I will write you an article and put It in the Library, but not the public library.

The Library of Resources is waiting for your curiosity.

The Library is a small and growing curated collection of evidence-based breastfeeding resources from all over. There are regular articles about breastfeeding and there are the Vanishing Reports. Vanishing reports go into depth about a topic. You have free access to them for awhile and then they vanish. Sometimes they will reappear as a publication you can buy.

In addition, I have a lending library of real books you can borrow.

We have Online Meetings because we love to socialize.

When you sit in a circle of women breastfeeding, you see and hear how normal it all is. You learn how common your questions are and how other people addressed the same question in their breastfeeding. When you share your questions, your feelings will be validated and affirmed. Others offer their opinion. I moderate conversations and offer additional information as needed.

While you may not feel like much of an expert, you are an expert in at least two things: your baby and what mothering a baby, exactly your baby’s age, is like. You have just the right kind of answers for someone with a baby who is your baby’s age, or younger.

How do you know The Breastfeeding Café is for you?

  • You know that breastfeeding is vital for you and for your baby
  • You need answers for your breastfeeding questions
  • You are interested in helping others 
  • You want to be a part of a close knit mothering community
  • You want your baby to be more connected to you
  • You want your baby to have friends, too.
  • You agree that there is no such thing as perfect
  • You know that supplementing is often a part of breastfeeding.

The Breastfeeding Café is come as you are:

  • Pajama pants and messy bun, baby in your arms, toddler clinging to your leg
  • Ready-for-work with pump bag/lunch bag/diaper bag by the door and baby on the boob
  • Celebrating, because last night your baby slept all night
  • Pumping on your lunch break with a salad and a sandwich.
  • New jeans, boots, blown out hair and make up, because today it all worked
  • Middle of the night with everyone sleeping, so of course, you can’t sleep
  • Tears in your eyes, because today has just been an awful day

Our motto is “Be kind and helpful, always.”

What The Breastfeeding Café is not.

The Café is not a substitute for Lactation Consultations, but it may reduce your need for them.

I have so many clients who got into their jam because they didn’t know the basics of milk production or positioning. This is a preventable-with-education consultation! In the forum and in meetings, you will read, see and hear tips for good positioning and milk production, over and over again. You will receive answers for all your breastfeeding questions!

You will not see “Trojan Horse” formula ads in the side bar.

There are no ads, period. There is no amplification of rare catastrophes (Like the Christie del Castillo-Hegyi tragedy) to scare you into abandoning breastfeeding.

The Breastfeeding Café is not a place for “Perfect Breastfeeding”.

We are living in overwhelming times. You are allowed and encouraged to feed your baby in ways that work for you, your baby and your situation. Exclusive breastfeeding, exclusive pumping, combo-feeding and at-breast feeding are all ways you can nourish, and mother, your baby.

The Breastfeeding Café is not a place for cliques, mean girls and drama.

We do not tolerate abuse of any kind. You will be removed without warning, your account closed, and all your posts removed. Acceptable and unacceptable behavior is spelled out in the Code of Conduct.

The Breastfeeding Café Regular Membership

The Breastfeeding Café Online Forum: This is a private ‘old-school’ forum. It has easy login and full privacy controls. We use our real names (your baby or child can have an alias). Your information is limited to the members of the forum who I know in real life and agree to the Code of Conduct.

2. Professional guidance with an IBCLC: Donna Bruschi, IBCLC has more than 20 years helping families overcome breastfeeding challenges. Guidance includes answering your breastfeeding questions, weighing your baby and recommending a full length one-on-one consultation as needed. You can certainly consult with, and be under the care of, another Lactation Consultant. I agree to work collaboratively with your Lactation Consultant.

3. Café Library: Curated repository of videos, articles, scientific papers, and a lending library of real books.

4. Vanishing Articles: These are In depth reports about breastfeeding and mothering that are free for a period of time and then vanish.

Online Meetings: Video meetings are on Google Meet. Google Meet is accessible in your Gmail application. If you don’t have Gmail, the link will open in any browser, and you can also dial in via phone.

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Bring a friend ticket for Online Meetings: You can invite one friend to join our Online Meetings. ($10 value)

Breastfeeding Café Premium Membership – Bonuses

All of the above plus:

  • Live Meetups: As the weather and/or COVID permits, we meet in small groups. Wearing masks will be required for all in-person indoor meetups to protect babies. We use HEPA air filters.
  • Friend tickets for Open Online Meetings. You can invite up to 5 friends to join our Open Online Meetings.
  • Single-use Café passes: You can invite up to 5 friends to visit our Forum during our Guest Week.
  • Vanishing Reports: These reports feature an in-depth look at areas of mothering and breastfeeding. They are available only to Premium Members, and only for a few months before they vanish.
The Care & Feeding of the Breastfeeding Mama ebook ($20 value)
Cloth Diaper Love: The Cloth Diaper Handbook ebook ($20 value)
Seven Essentials Before Beginning Breastfeeding ebook ($10 value)
Taking Care of Myself poster ($4 value)

The Breastfeeding Café Smiley Face Guarantee

We will create a place for moms to make good friends, and access good information with timely help and advice.

If you do not like The Breastfeeding Café, I am happy to refund your payment. If you can, it would help if you shared what you do and don’t like about it. I’m always interested in giving families what they really need.

The Breastfeeding Café Membership
Starting October 25, 2023

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Have questions?

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